Tuesday, February 28, 2017

The Bartons

The Bartons- Our Neighbors
 Philadelphia PA
 1962- 1970

They lived next door to us, Don and Mary Lou Barton and their 10 kids; Michael, Tommy, Susie, Jimmy, Donnie, John, Joey, Mary Lou, Peter and Murphy. Don was a civil engineer. Marylou was a former actress who left the stage to get married. He was quiet and she could talk so fast it was exhausting just listen to her. She never took a breath and spoke faster than the speed of sound.

He ruled with an iron fist. A discipline regiment was designed, implemented and maintained by him. Every morning everyone got up at the same time and had oatmeal for breakfast every day of the week except Sunday. On Sunday Donnie Jr was allowed to purchase a package of those boxed variety sugared cereal which he sold to his siblings for a small profit. Donnie Jr had presented this idea to his dad who was so impressed with his son’s entrepreneurship that he decreed that only Donnie could have the market on the sugared cereal.

Every day everyone went to school. There were no exceptions unless someone was knocking on deaths door and there was no debate of this issue. The house cleared out on time every day every year.

After school the boys had to practice basketball as they were going to play basketball in high school. As this was going to get them a college admissions advantage. When Mr. Barton came home from work, he walked right down the driveway to the baseball court.  He took his suit jacket and tie off, rolled up the sleeves of his white shirt and coached the boys on shooting techniques and blocking skills.

Dinner was the same time every night.  And the five minutes before that designated time, he would stand on the back porch steps and whistle with a shrill that could be heard around the neighborhood. Within minutes all the kids came in running, entering through the back door, never through the front door as they weren’t allowed to use the front door.

After dinner everyone had a chore and once finished it was time to report to the study room on the third floor. The study room was empty except for the large table and 8 wooden chairs. Everyone took their place and worked for their homework. He patrolled around the room, answering math questions and pushing them to try harder. Everybody was on task.

My brothers love to torture the Barton boys at this time. So Jimmy and Chris would go up to their bay window, open up the window and call out to distract the Barton boys. Inevitably one of them would respond and raise his head to check out the situation. Add that action would be corrected by a smack on the side of the head from Mr. Barton. And my brothers would just sit there, enjoying their cigarettes and keeping score on how many of the brothers they could do lure into their trap.

Mr. Barton cut everyone’s hair. On the first day of summer all the boys got buzz cuts. He dyed Mrs. Martin’s long blonde hair and trimmed the girls’ hair as well.

The boys were athletic and always breaking bones. There was a rule of thumb if you could walk to the hospital, get a someone to go with you and get to the hospital. A foot injury warranted the use of the red wagon. A broken leg involved parental intervention.  It wasn’t that the parents didn’t care. But Mr. Barton work too far away. And Mrs. Barton didn’t drive and she always had young kids underfoot and she run a daycare center in her home so she couldn’t leave the house.

Mrs. Barton was high strung, high energy, and a bundle of nervous energy. She always wore high heeled shoes which eventually ruined her foot structure as a result. After a while she couldn’t wear anything but heels which looked comical when she was walking on the beach. She had lots of beautiful gold jewelry that she bought for herself with her babysitting money. This money was not shared with anybody. It all went to her jewelry fund.

The Bartons only live next door to us for eight years. But Mr. and Mrs. Barton were very good friends with my parents for 40 years. And they stayed good friends until they were all dead. Even in their death they are neighbors. My mother died first. When Mrs. Barton saw where my family’s burial plot was, she announced right there at the gravesite “Don I want our plot right here by my good friend Jackie. I want to be her neighbor in heaven.”


And so it was done. They bought a plot right near my parents and so now the Bartons and the Kellys rest together forever.

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Monday, February 27, 2017

Wimbledon




Wimbledon
London, England
July 1982

I was starting my doctoral program at Penn State.  My kick-off course was entitled Cross Cultural Analysis of Educational Systems.  I was spending the summer in England, visiting a variety of schools in London and Durham.  There were 20 of us on this cross-cultural analysis and it was great fun.

Each day, we went to a different school in the morning and then we wandered around the city in the afternoon.  In the evening, we went to the theatre or a pub. I really enjoyed this summer.

One day someone mentioned that Wimbledon was taking place so we hopped a few subway trains and made our way to the venue.  It was a gorgeous, gorgeous day. The sun was out.  It wasn't too hot. Everyone was well dressed for the occasion (except for us).

We walked right through the entrance gate and no one was collecting tickets which really surprised me because I would have never thought that this event was free.  We walked up the midway and made our way to some seats.  A match was just beginning. We sat  for about 1/2 hour but then lost interest as it was too hard for any of us to figure out who was winner.  None of us were tennis players.  I took a few photos and we left.

Several years later, I showed my photos to my tennis friends.  Their jaws dropped.  "Do you know what match you attended," one of them asked.

"Nope", I responded nonchalantly.

"Do you realize you watched Chris Everett play Martina Navratilova?"  She was incredulous. "I've wanted to see those two compete against each other my whole life.  Did you know that?"

"Um, no, not really," I responded.

"And you didn't have a ticket?  You just walked in? You didn't buy tickets.  You just walked in? No one stopped you?  It was that simple.  You just found an empty seat at the most coveted match of the entire competition?"

"Yea, we just sat down.  We had good seats," I added just to be annoying. She was so miffed by the injustice that I thought I should quickly move on and show her my photos of 30 different school in England.


Sunday, February 26, 2017

Squirrels



Squirrels
My Front Yard
Carpenter's Point, MD
Spring 2015


I was sitting on my chair in my front room when i looked outside and saw a squirrel emerge from a hole in my tree.  Then another squirrel popped his head out and another and another and another; five in total, all from this little hole. I was immediately concerned for a number of reasons: (1) I hate squirrels, they are sneaky and creepy, (2) they are destructive and eat through everything, (3) they are too close to my house; they may get inside and scare the shit out of me and I wouldn't know how to get them out. So I would just have to abandon my house and move elsewhere.

I found a big rock and decided to clog the opening.  But that caused me concern. What if there was another one in there and when i approached the hole, it charged out at me and bit me and infected me with rabies?  What if there were more in there and I suffocated them and they died and began to rot and smell up the neighborhood?  A bunch of dead bodies certainly could smell.  What if I trapped them in there and they panicked and dug their way through the tree and damaged the tree in the process?

So I decided to wait a few days and see if they moved on after a certain point.  But that worried me.  What if i came home at night in the dark and they come out of that hole at the same time and charged at me? What if those two damn feral cats who roam the neighborhood, and particularly my back yard, now catch some of those babies and leave dead baby squirrel bodies all over my year?

I hate squirrels.  They are a menace.

I monitored their movements for the next week.  I went out the back door and up the neighbor's driveway to get to my car. I chased the cats away whenever I saw them. I kept my eye on them.

Finally, it appeared as if they left the nest.  So I plugged up the hole with a rock and ran away.  When I felt that I was no longer in harm's way, I straighten myself up and returned to my house as if no incident was plaguing me.  I was in control once again.

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Saturday, February 25, 2017

Here She Comes


Here He Comes
Cemetery
Long Beach Island, NJ


I don't know why this sign speaks to me but it does.  It is just so joyful. As I get older, I think of my death more and more, almost to the point that it is an obsession.  I am not afraid of dying but I am afraid of the process.  I don't want to suffer, I don't want to linger.  And I hope I leave this Earth excited to move on to the next journey.


Friday, February 24, 2017

Images of Greece




 IMAGES OF GREECE
Winter 2008

I went to Greece for my winter break in December 2008.  I met my niece, Heather, there.  She was living in South Korea and I was living outside of Philadelphia.  We thought this would be a fun, warm place to spend the holidays.  And so we meet.  And while the weather was warm for us, it was too cold for the Greeks and everything was shut down for the winter. regardless, it was a nice trip and a beautiful country.








Thursday, February 23, 2017

Feeling Better

Feeling Better
Philadelphia, PA
Summer 1979


I am cramped in an airport limousine. There are seven of us in this stuffed van heading to the Newark Airport. A man complains about the heat and his headache. The woman beside me turns to him and offers him a moist towelette to wipe his face.


“Here, take this Stay- and-dry. Go ahead, wipe your face with it. It will make you feel better. I want saw a man have a heart attack. And I gave him one of these. His wife wiped his face with it and he said he felt 100% better right away”, she said not even realizing how ridiculous the statement was.

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Being Served

Being Served
Philadelphia PA
1970

I am a 10th grader, 15 years old, not very worldly and not very confident. For some reason, tonight, a Saturday night, my older sister has invited me to join her. She is going out to a bar with some of her college friends. While she is older than me, she is only 18 years old and the drinking age is 21.


There are seven of us, the six college students and me. The oldest person is 19. We sit in the corner in a booth. My sister tells me to sit with my back to the bar so the bartender won’t notice me. He won’t see how young I look. One of the guys, the only one with the full beard, gets up and goes the bar and orders several pitchers of beer for all of us. He comes back with the pitchers and glasses. And I am shaking in my boots. I have been served.


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