PERFORMING WEDDINGS
“I just can’t figure out why anyone would ask you to perform
their wedding. You aren’t married. You don’t care about marriage and you don’t even
have a license to perform a wedding. What’s the appeal,” my sister asks?
“You do weddings? ” My brother-in-law chimes in.
“Yes, she’s done a couple of them, can you believe it.”
“I didn’t know you had a license to do that”, Bill adds.
“I don’t. I am just officiate at the ceremony. I have nothing to do with the legal stuff,“ I
reply.
“But why? Why you of
all people”, she asks, not even trying to hide her disbelief.
“Because, some people want no sense of god in their service
and they know they can count on me to deliver.
They want strictly a secular ceremony and lots of people have a hard
time understanding this.”
“Then why don’t they just say that and get someone who doesn’t
mention god. Get a judge or a justice of the peace or something,” she retorts
in frustration.
“Because, if you are someone who has a sense of god, that is
a really hard concept to understand”, I tell her with a little bit of
frustration. “Look at Heather’s wedding, she didn’t want anything church related
so she got a judge and that judge threw in a few references to god in the
ceremony even though Heather didn’t want that.”
“Well, I guess so”, she admits with a slight tone of
resignation.
“But wait, why wouldn’t someone want a reference to god in a
wedding. It is a sacrament after all”, Bill
adds.
“That’s just her point, it isn’t a sacrament for everyone”,
Trisha adds
“Really?” He can’t believe
what he is hearing.
